Getting Your Confidence + Power Back
Expression and sales expert, Beatriz Lopez, shares with us her journey of being fired twice- and how this 'loss' was actually her greatest gain.
A Little About The Guest.
Bea Lopez is a Sales & Expression Strategist who helps skilled, driven women build magnetic authority through full expression- so they become the woman who naturally holds attention, gets chosen, while feeling dangerously good doing it.
After 15 years in corporate sales, she was fired twice for being too outspoken. And this didn't only mess up her confidence as a professional- it affected her as a woman, in every area of her life. That's why she made it her mission to activate and change how women use their voice and feel when they sell.
Find + Connect With Beatriz Here: INSTAGRAM
The Guest Deep-Dive.
1. What does the word ‘no’ mean to you? How do you use it, and what do you do when you hear it?
The word “no” is such a weird feeling word. It makes me feel powerful when I use it to set limits and boundaries or express my opinions. And yet, I’ve struggled with it when I asked for help or a favor and people didn’t respond how I expected. It might feel like you’re not leaving anything open for debate, like nothing is black and white. But it’s necessary to learn to use it and receive it.
2. Describe what it looks like when a woman is fully in her power; and tell us, how do YOU personally embody this on a daily basis?
A woman in her power is unshakeable in her conviction about who she is and what she wants. She doesn’t apologize for taking up space. I embody it by saying what I think, directly and seriously, without softening it to make other people comfortable.
3. A lot of people mistake being outspoken for being loud. Why aren’t these the same thing, and how does one use her voice in the right way?
This happens constantly. When I say I’m outspoken, people think I’m mean or disrespectful, and it couldn’t be farther from the truth. The problem is that when you’re nice to people and then suddenly say what you think straight to the point, they get offended by it.
They can’t not take it personally because you might be saying what everyone thinks but no one dares to say out loud. Being outspoken is about clarity and conviction. Being loud is about volume and force. One is grounded. The other is reactive.
4. What is a very specific moment that sticks with you, when you clearly gave your power away to a stranger- and what would you do differently if you could repeat that scenario?
I don’t remember a particular moment recently. But I’ve been paying attention to how hard it is to accept help from strangers. Even when I do accept it, my immediate reaction is “no, thanks, it’s okay. I don’t want to bother you. I can do it on my own.” And somehow that reaction feels like I’m keeping my power when really it does the opposite. Real power is knowing when to let people in too.
5. Name your favourite guilty pleasure for each of these: food, tv, books + things to do in your spare time
Food: Do I need to pick one? I like food too much.
TV: I love anything with a good argument or mystery, but also magical and romantic shows that feel fun.
Books: Adolescent magical romantic books full of fairy sex.
I dance, strength train, play padel, walk my dog, and spend hours at the drugstore looking at skincare I won’t buy because I already have enough.
6. If you could whisper anything into the ears of every single woman and instantly change what she thinks, believes, or how she shows up- what would you say?
It’s too exhausting to try to be anyone but yourself. So just go and be yourself.
The Podcast Deets.
Have you ever went through a major unexpected transition or loss in life, and found yourself wondering who you were at the end of it all? Maybe it even felt like you lost part of your identity... and alongside it, your confidence.
If you know that feeling- then you’re going to love today’s episode. In this feature we’re talking to Beatriz Lopez, a confidence and expression expert who was previously fired from two different sales jobs for being too outspoken.
She shares her own personal experience in overcoming this hardship, having to find her ‘spark’ again, and how when her confidence plummeted- so did her joy, pleasure, sex drive and more.
Best part... she even walks us through the connection between our womb space and our throat, and how our voice is literally the center of our power.
This episode is packed with wisdom, and you don’t want to miss a moment of it.
Let’s dive in, shall we?
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